Most men don’t ask for help often. They have learned to take care of things themselves. Sounds good right? But it’s not the full story.
The man who looks to others to solve his problems does not go far in life. He will only be successful in the art of complaining and finding excuses as to why he has not reached his potential.
But a man who can’t be open about the things that are on his mind and feels he should protect his inside world as much as his outside world, is fighting two battles all the time. And that is one too much.
Asking for help is not the same as giving away our own responsibility to fix things
What I’ve personally found to be at the core of this reaching out/handling alone mechanism is not the inability to feel or be vulnerable.
It is that most men do not ask for help because they have learned to either do things themselves or let them to others. There is nothing in between. An outlook that comes forth from our nature to fix the problems we are encountering, which makes it feel like we are giving them to someone else when sharing.
A big step in our journey is to understand that asking for help is not the same as giving away our own responsibility to fix things.
It is taking matters into our own hand, which can only be done by opening our hands to others as well.