What is internal struggle?

It is the battle between two thoughts you both give substance to.

For example, on the one hand you may hold the belief that in order to be successful, you must work an 80-hour workweek and make a tonne of money. A belief that may originate from mirroring or listening to others because of a need for approval (which is actually an unacknowledged longing for self-acceptance and forgiveness).

On the other hand that same person may have picked up the idea that a good men is there for those in need and that he should help his 80-year old neighbour with her groceries.

Holding these two beliefs may cause an internal struggle because of two reasons.

  1. You can’t life in accordance with both. You simply do not have enough time and therefore will continuously feel like you’re coming up short.
  2. Both beliefs are based on external thoughts and needs, things outside of yourself that you assume will bring you the feeling you are looking for.

Most people tend to focus on reason number one in their approach to fixing their distress. They may take time management courses, wake up extra early or give up on pleasures in order to get more done. They rip themselves up because of two beliefs in them that don’t seem to go hand in hand.

You’ve guessed by now that this is actually counter-productive.

The easiest way to change your situation is to align yourself totally with what you do want, without any reference to the things you do not want.

You shift, without looking for reasons or trying to explain how things came to be, to the situation you would like to be in.

The easiest way to change your situation is to align yourself totally with what you do want, without any reference to the things you do not want.

Want to know more on how to do this? Keep following HeartRoads or drop me a note.

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